The fifth and final installment of this series is all about our animal instincts. Deep down we are all animals and if you believe in evolution (like any sound-minded individual should) then you know that we have inherited our traits, such as fierce loyalty and protecting our loved one, from our ancestors. Traits such as these should be celebrated and admired because without them, family units would not stay intact throughout generations.
Being loyal to who you love and what you believe in is one of the most admirable qualities someone can possess. I can only speak for myself but I do know that I bond to people for life. And once I am bonded, that’s it. All bets are off and I will be by your side until the end. I have said this many times, when talking about my connection with Hugo to people – if we both lost our jobs and ended up living in a van, down by the river (RIP Chris Farley), I would happily live in that van with him. I could decorate it very nicely and we would enjoy the river-front location together.
As I ponder what it means to be protective of those that you love, I can’t help but also think of the word jealousy. Jealousy normally has a negative connotation but I truly believe that a small, healthy amount of jealousy is a good thing. For instance, when my husband’s phone beeps with four text messages all of a sudden and when asked, he replies that it is from a female coworker, I can’t help but feel like, “Who the hell is this girl?!!?!” Now, I know I have nothing to worry about because Hugo loves me beyond belief and he would never cheat on me. I truly know that. But the animal side of KK can’t help but perk her ears up, have her back arched, and swat her tail back and forth. Hugo is the prize I hold dearest to my heart and I protect him like a hungry lioness guards a fresh kill from nearby hyenas.
I think all women, and men for that matter, actually have those instinctual feelings, and it isn’t anything to be ashamed of. I joke with my husband all of the time about how I feel because he should know. It is actually a bit flattering to have your significant other get a little worked up over someone else potentially being interested in them. And don’t kid yourself – when I have been flirted with or pursued by other men, Hugo postures up and flares his nostrils, so to speak, as well.